Ok – Lets talk about this and it is really important:
Comparison is the their of joy – Theodore Rooseveld
I get asked a bajillion times a day “my journal is messy and I wish it could be neater”, “how do I get neater handwriting”
No! What we should be asking is “how do I accept what my journal looks like”? SO! Ive collected 27 messy styled bullet journals to show you that being messy is ok! That being messy isn’t something to scoff at or feel bad about. I know my journal is nothing amazing and 100% messy, my hand writing is big and bulky and when I compare it to my amazing buddy over at Little Miss Rose I cant help but compare us! Her handwriting is neat and pretty and gorgeous. A natural scribe in comparison to my bloody screaming sloppy mess.
Focusing on other peoples spreads and getting caught up in comparison can be a huge mistake, you start doubting your skills and capability. Your journey is not about other people and where they are in their journey, its about you and your journey, your state of mind and the pace at which you work through things. Some people can come with a plan around spreads and the use of their journals that they’ve developed over months or weeks but get thrown off course by paying too much attention to other people’s approach or the way other people have created their spreads.
So why do we find the intrinsic need to compare ourselves to others? Are there any benefits?
The Pros and Cons of Comparison
Obviously there is a time and place for comparison and can sometimes be used to fuel your drive or passion
In this post here:
According to social comparison theory (in a nutshell), we compare ourselves to others for information gathering – as a means of expanding and/or honing our frame of reference for self-assessment. It presumably gives a reality check when objective measures aren’t present or aren’t deemed as relevant. In some cases, we also compare ourselves because we want to boost our motivation to achieve more by finding motivation in the examples “upward” comparison (e.g. someone fitter, more successful, etc.) provides. In other circumstances, we choose to indulge in so called “downward” comparison to presumably boost our self-esteem by focusing on people in worse situations than those in which we perceive ourselves to be (e.g. more overweight, less fit, less successful, etc.).
So in summary just accept your style and either work on improving it or just own it as yours!